How To Stop Being A People Pleaser

Everyone has heard the phrase be yourself.  Sometimes that can be hard to do when you’re trying to be a people pleaser.  The fear of what other people will think of you can make you act differently.  You think that if you do things this way that these other people will like you more. But you can’t fully be yourself and be comfortable with who you are when you’re trying to please others.

When you are yourself, you’re the happiest.  You’re not trying to please other people.  You’re living life for you.  You’re doing things that make you happy.

Trying to live up to someone else’s standards can be hard.  The pressure of expectations set by other people is no way to live. You’re in constant fear of doing something other people will not approve of.  When this happens you feel like you’ve disappointed them which only makes you feel bad about yourself.

You beat yourself up over doing something that displeases someone else.  You think why did I do that and belittle yourself.  In your head, you start calling yourself names like stupid and idiot until your confidence in yourself is no more.  This why it’s essential to live life on your terms. 

In order to be a confident person you need to be yourself.  Knowing who you are and what matters to you is crucial.  When you’ve identified these key beliefs you can begin to live life based off what makes you happy.  Not what makes other people happy.

You stop being a people pleaser when you realize what other people think of you doesn’t really matter. The judgement and words from other people who don’t agree with what you’re doing are just not your people. This is okay!  You can’t please everyone.  And when you try, you’re just sharing a vanilla version of yourself.  You think that by not rocking the boat, more people will like you.

The truth is, your real friends and family who know you, accept you for who you are.  They don’t want another version of you.  They appreciate who you are and love you for it. Just be you.

You cannot continue to live life based off the fear of what other people think of you.  When you boldly take a stand for what you believe in, you’re putting a stake in the ground that states this who you are with confidence.  You’re not afraid to be vulnerable and put yourself out there.  Most of all, you’re not fearful of what other people think. You’re living life for you and what you believe in.

People who take a stand for what they believe in actually have millions of fans.  Fans get behind people who have a message.  They follow leaders.  These leaders are influencers who aren’t afraid to stand up for what they believe in.  They are confident in themselves and their voice to share their perspective.

You can be one of these leaders too.  But the first step is being true to who you really are.  It’s not about being someone else.  It’s shouting it from the roof tops that this you, take it or leave it.

You have to live life for you.  That means being boldly you and standing up for what you believe in.  Unfortunately, this doesn’t always sit well with other people. You may ruffle some feathers along the way but at least you’re being true to who you really are.  That is the only way you will truly live a happy life.