Becoming Your Inner Childā€™s Hero
Your mind is constantly taking in life and rechecking with your past to see how you will responded. If it was a good experience, you’re likely to feel at peace and relaxed. If it was a not so favorable experience, you may want to flee, hide, or avoid it all together. You’re looking at life through the lens of your past experiences. Most of these experiences were formed in your childhood. As a child, from ages zero to seven, you learn your true feelings, needs, what it means to be safe, vulnerable, to trust, and play. At this age, you take in your experiences to form your thoughts and beliefs about the world. You carry these beliefs into your adolescence and adulthood to help you make decisions in life.
Unable To Process
Often times, your younger self doesn’t know how to process these situations and the emotions that arise. You don’t have a guide to talk you through it so you do the best with what you...
The Story Of Your Life
In a biography of your life, you are the main character. How you see yourself in your life’s story matters. You can play the victim, the villain, or the hero. The choice is yours. Here’s how each one plays out in the story of your life.
Victim
When you play the character of the victim, you feel like the world is out to get you. Life is working against you and not happening for you. You often see what’s wrong and focus on what’s not going right. You feel like nothing is ever good enough. You feel hopeless about your situation and don’t think things will change. You feel powerless and it doesn’t seem like things will ever turn around in your favor. You blame outside sources for your own misgivings in life. Yet, you also believe that these outside sources are the only thing that will save you and create the joy, happiness, and success you’ve always deeply desired for...
Pick A Path
Imagine you’re walking in the forest on a dirt path and you come to a fork in the road. You have to make a decision to veer right or left. But, you’re uncertain which way to go. Your choices are either to remain where you are at the cross roads or pick a direction and take that path. Fear often keeps you stuck and prevents you from making a decision. You’re unsure what will happen if you go right or left. It’s easier to remain in your comfort zone of where you are and what you know. In life, you’re constantly faced with the difficult decision to pick a path.
Known VS Unknown
The uncertainty of the unknown keeps you stuck exactly where you currently are. But, at least you know what to expect. Think about this though, do you really want to remain at this same point day after day, year after year or would you rather fully experience life and all that it has to offer? You have a choice to...
Why Now Is The Perfect Time To Set A Goal
There will never be a perfect time to achieve your goal. Something will always come up that tries to detour you. Whether that’s an excuse or a real reason that makes sense to you at the time. But, you can’t keep putting off your goals and dreams in life until later because sadly, later might never arrive. That’s a tough reality to think about. When you get to the end of your life with all the could, should, and would have done regrets. You can’t let that happen! The best time to set, start working towards, and achieve your goal is right now!
Eliminate The Excuses
Don’t believe the excuses and reasons why you can’t work towards your goals and dreams. You’ve probably been telling yourself for years that when this is finished then you’ll be ready to work towards your goal. You just have to get through this life event or complete this project before you work towards your...
Three Responses To Achieving Your Goal
There are three responses you can receive when it comes to achieving your goal. Those responses are yes, not yet, or there is something else for you. These three responses are powerful. Here is a deeper look into each one.
Yes
The yes response means yes, you’ve achieved your goal. Achieving your goal can be an extremely exciting time. Especially when you’ve worked so hard to achieve your goal. You put in a lot of time, effort, and hard work into achieving it. You experienced speed bumps, ups, and downs in the journey to finally successfully achieving your goal. Relish in this victory. Celebrate your success and what it took to get there. Don’t lose sight of just how far you’ve come and who you had to become in the process so that you could achieve your goal. Receiving the yes response is the easy part because you got what you wanted. All your hard work paid off in the end.
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Should You Set Time Bound Goals?
You have probably heard of a setting a SMART goal. A goal that is specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. But, what if setting a deadline wasn’t actually helping you to achieve your goal? Instead, it’s putting added pressure on you to either achieve the goal by that date or get down on yourself because you didn’t. Goals take a while to achieve and that happens through daily consistent action. Here is why setting a time bound goal is not always beneficial.
Time Bound Goals
Time bound goals have a deadline when you will achieve the goal by. But, this deadline can put undue pressure on you. It also brings the believability that you will achieve your goal down. Big goals can already feel really overwhelming to achieve. When you add the extra layer of stress by having a deadline, you very well may have just set yourself up for failure. If you don’t achieve your goal by the...
Live The Life You Want
It’s a new year. You may not be where you expected to be at this very moment, but you must let the previous year go if you want to make room for all the big goals and dreams to come this year. You’re going to need to decide what you want this year. The first step is to reassess where you are and then figure out where you want to be. After you’ve done that, you’ll need an action plan to get you there. Here are the four steps broken down for you to work through this process to help you live the life you want.
Reassess
If you’re still working towards a specific goal, reassess your goal and how you feel. Maybe your goal no longer aligns with what you want in your life anymore. Decide if you want to recommit, readjust, or completely scrap your goal. It’s okay to make changes, adjustments, and modify your goal. This is your life. Reassess where you are and what you want to make happen...
New Year's Resolutions Versus Goals
The new year is here and new year’s resolutions are a popular topic right now. You might be considering setting a new year’s resolution for yourself or maybe you already have. You want to kick the year off right so you figure a new year’s resolution is a great place to start. You’re excited, inspired, and motivated to make some big changes this year. In fact, you’re ready to make this your best year yet!
Improvements
A new year’s resolution is something you want to change in order to improve your life. Maybe you want to start exercising, stop a bad habit, incorporate a new healthy habit, etc. Most new year’s resolutions are absolutes where you say you’re going to do something or not do something. It’s a promise to yourself that you’re going to make it a point to stick to. You start off strong because you’re so excited and motivated to make this new year’s...
Create Your Dreaming Session
In the final week of the year, set aside time to dream about what you achieve and make happen in the new year. Now is the perfect opportunity to create your dreaming session. Here is how to get started to dream about the new year.
Set The Mood
Before you start dreaming about what you want to make happen in the new year, you need to first set the mood. You’re not going to be able to focus and dream in a loud, busy environment. Instead, find a quiet place alone where you can dream without interruption. Maybe you want to light a candle while you cozy up with a warm blanket and your favorite beverage. Take a few deep breaths to slow your mind down from life’s hectic pace. It’s not a race to see how quickly you can complete your dreaming session. Rather, it’s a time for you to dream as long as you need to so that you can fully visualize your major milestones in the new year. Also, make sure you have a...
Reflecting Over The Year
The journey of life is not an easy, clear, direct path. There are lots of ups and downs. Maybe this was an up year or perhaps it was a down year. Either way, it’s important to reflect over the year. You’ve made it through some tough times. Take a look at the obstacles you’ve overcome and the difficulties that you’ve faced. Celebrate each milestone on your journey. These challenges have pushed you out of your comfort zone and helped you to step into a higher version of yourself. Without these challenges it’s difficult to learn and grow. Here is how to complete your yearly reflection.
Learn
There are things you know now that you didn’t know at the beginning of the year. Whether this was knowledge you gained through books, podcasts, videos, or courses, you’ve furthered your mental cognizance. Maybe you learned a new skill this year by taking up a new hobby. Perhaps...
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